Twin Problem
Karen and Kate, though twins are extremely different. Kate has always been regarded as the prettier. One morning while I was in Isabela last week, my three, turning-8 years old cousins (the fraternal twins, Karen and Kate, and Jessa) went with our Grandmother who visited, Rex, our other cousin, who had been in the hospital for three days because of peptic ulcer. When they returned, my grandmother told us that the three were weighed and Karen registered 25kg in the weighing scale against Kate’s 16kg. Some of our older cousins taunted Karen and told her she’s fat. With me smelling a diminishing self-esteem (Karen is the nicer but the quieter one) told her that her weight was just normal, adding that I weighed the same when I was in grade two.
That afternoon, the three went to me while i was lying on my Grandmother’s bed they went at my bedside. Normally they are hostile to me, but that this time they were extremely nice.
It was Jessa who spoke first in Ilocano, “Manong Mon, mayat met dyay C-Lium para ubing, aya? (C-Lium is not forbidden to children, is it?)
I was utterly bewildered by the question because I thought that the word C-Lium was an Ilocano word, so I asked them to repeat it and have it explained. It turned out that C-Lium is a brand of anti-constipation-fiber supplement that Kate and Karen’s big sister drinks to reduce her weight. Unfortunately the real indication of the fiber supplement was obviously distorted by their big sister’s reason of taking the medicine, and now the children think that it is a weight reducing pill.
I was shocked of course when it dawned to me that the three were thinking of following the Diet regimen of a seventeen year old teenager. So I asked them if they were thinking of dieting. I told them that they are not fat on the contrary are very skinny. Karen answered back by squeezing her tummy and pulling the non-existent layers of blubbers, while Jessa defensively said,”Bakit, sinabi ba namin? Nagtatanong lang kami!” (Why, did we say? We were just asking!)
I have always known that the three has some sort of eating disorder since they were three years old. Back then Karen would never eat if her plate was, according to her, “ugly”. While Jessa would never eat any viand, no matter how appetizing and mouth-watering it is, except Milo. Kate was the worst, until now she would never eat anything except salted eggs. They always have a separate food cooked according to their instruction.
My… my…
Usually a person’s eating disorder starts at the age of 11 to 12. What causes eating disorders is really vague, but a combination of many factors are said to contribute to the disorder. According to a research 42% of Grade one-three students (I am not sure if the reasearch is worldwide and includes the Philippines) want to be thinner while 81% of ten-year old kids are scared of being fat.
So tell me, are they now included in the statistics?
12 April 2007 at 4:09 pm
I think your cousins’ case is not as alarming yet. They are still in the curiousity stage. What’s important now is for someone to psych them out into believing that eating properly is important for them because they are still in their developing years. They need the nutrients for growth - both physically and mentally.
I am reminded of a 12year old girl. She is very conscious already of her figure, and would never eat her dinner. Now, I believe she is depriving herself of the essential nutrients needed for a child her age. And what’s bugging is, her own parents are even proud to say that she is already conscious of her weight, and eats very little in order not to get fat.
If I am not mistaken, even the Catholic Church has forbidden fasting among teenagers 15 years old and below. This is because children of this need as much nutrient as they can get, and fasting, even for the duration of Holy Week alone, will deprive them of such.
12 April 2007 at 4:18 pm
ganyan din ang pamangkit ko masyadong consicous sa kanyang katawan at the age of 8. masyadong pihikan sa pagkain, kaya binibigyan nalang ng suppliment para magbalance ang nutrients na kailagan ng katawan niya, pero di pa rin sumusuko ang magaulang nya na turuan or itrain na mag take ng balanseng pagkain.
12 April 2007 at 9:11 pm
my cousin started eating not-so-healthy food when she was around 12. Now she is over 200 lbs and she’s only turning 20. i have given her tips to eat and live well. i guess parents are key factors for kids to grow healthy.
13 April 2007 at 9:33 am
It is important to teach children how to eat in a healthy way!
13 April 2007 at 11:51 am
jeez…dieting or being fat or being too skinny was not in my vocabulary when I was in elementary.
Uhhhmmm I agree with Rhodora that the girls are still in the curiosity stage. But I feel like they are already “conscious” with their weight…you know if they are fat or skinny. I believe that serious concerns regarding eating disorders starts from there. I’m sure it will help if they will not be teased (especially Karen) about being fat or fatter than her twin. I don’t think it will have a good effect on her. It might affect her self-esteem.
Like Sidney said…the thing that should be inculcated in their minds is to eat healthy.
13 April 2007 at 8:52 pm
naalala ko ang covo na ito… sa isang book na nabasa ko..
Irv: My granddaughter turned down a piece of chocolate cake last week, answering that she had to watch her weight. A, shes not fat to begin with, and B she’s just eleven years old.
Avery:I dont know what it is, society or the parents. If they’re not obese you find yourself worrying they’re anorexic.
siguro emotional yan. may emotional factor ang mga “stomach problems” eh…. would there be some stuffs na di nila matake? o ma-stomach ika nga.
17 April 2007 at 5:43 pm
unknowingly, children now are influenced by the media, by their peers, by their environment on how they are eating or what they are eating. parents and the school should look into this eating disorder thing…it’s a good sign that your cousins are inquisitive…at least we’d know what they are thinking about their health, proper diet, and weight maintenance although at their age, they shouldn’t be maintaining yet - they’re on the growing period..so more healthy foods should be taken.
you’ve got beautiful cousins!